Fool me once, Shame on ME

[Denver_2010]

Thanks 2 step. Hearing it from you certainly gives some creedence as I know you have your head on straight with values and morals.

You are right as well LP. Its almost like Im trying to justify what im doing like im doing something wrong.

Not to get too personel but since this is anonymous to some degree. I could not finish the deal again if you know what I mean. Dont want to put a time on it but I could have watched a period or two of hockey. That concerns me. With my W, I was a normal timed guy in the bedroom but now , Its Ron Jeremy territory. In the end , I just didnt which made her feel bad.
( Sorry if Im getting too personel here, Im not seeing a coucniler anymore and just wondering if there is insight)
Could it be guilt that I am cheating or something crazy like that?

Also, I apologize if i sound like Im coming across ( pardon the pun), as a player. Im NOT. Ive always done ok with the ladies but not player territory. Ever since elementary school, I was always in a committed relationship of some kind. My face is actually red as I write this.

Im simply trying to navigate this hurt from my wife, not trying to hurt anybody and you know, getting some needs met. Its been months since the last time. Does that make me weak?
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Another good chuckle with the Ron Jeremy reference 9! LOL...

Listen man, I'm pretty sure that what you describe is a result of guilt. Like CS said, it may mean that you're not quite ready for this. I don't know. And I think that 2Step is right, you just need to be very honest with anyone that you date or are 'with'.

Now should you feel guilty about this? Nah, not IMO. Not for your W anyhow. The only question you have to answer, is, 'is this right for me?'

Your W should have no bearing on what you do right now. She's made her present intentions clear. She has no right to expect anything from you. Thus, no guilt for what you 'think' you might owe her.

You and your W are separated after all and NOT working towards reconciling in any sense of the word.

Are you violating your M vows? Man, only you can decide that for yourself.

I don't think that anyone would judge you for this though 9.


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Denver