For what it's worth I will say not only are you not there you are in denial.
I am not here to issue 2x4's BTM. I know the agony one feels in these sitch's and the point of desperation one can reach in these times.
However desperation of losing someone is no reason to throw reasoning to the wind and your own dignity. There were night I wanted to pick up the phone and call my W and just scream at her days I wanted to cry and days I wanted to tell her how much I loved her.
I did, in my journal. I wrote it down. Never to her. Not because I was DBing but because it served no purpose other than to satisfy myself. Sure I did a few times early on but you know what? I felt good for about 24hrs then I felt worse.
Telling your kids?
I think it was a terrible idea. I will leave it at that.
The human thing is to want to blame the cheater and heap all your emotions on to them. While this may help you feel better, it won’t help you rebuild your relationship or your self respect. You need to put away blame and move past it.
Everything you do, say, think, is tied to your W and while you are doing this you will be swimming in the same circle of hurt, anger, and agony.
When you are not riding your emotional 'high' go back and read that exchange.
I think you will see why you got the reaction you did.
