Oh, let me be more clear about "fix"ing it... Fix feeling bad. IOW, you don't have to love your W or be attracted to her. Fix in you the feeling of bad about yourself and change it into a feeling good about yourself. Feel good about who you are, your worth.
And regarding the anniversary...
I completely understand those who will say that acknowledging an anniversary can be a good thing and is worth considering or doing.
It is a situation of whether it will help or hurt the sitch.
In my sitch, it might help. It might hurt. It is the little things. But I will not risk that it would hurt the sitch.
My W acknowledged my b-day. It neither helped nor hurt the sitch. I did not acknowledge my W's b-day a month later. It neither helped nor hurt the sitch. We spent last X-mas together with family. It neither helped nor hurt the sitch...
We will likely still be M on our anniversary on Aug. 11. At this time, I will not be acknowledging our anniversary. Based on past results, it will neither help nor hurt the sitch. If things change and we are talking R by that time, then I would, as it will likely help. Until then, I will put no more emotional energy into trying to figure out if it is right or wrong, good or bad...
