it has been a hard while for me and to be honest, when i read DB our situation was pretty much script (i know now because i read the book....would have been good to read before it had gotten that way).
basically she was looking for someone to pay more attention to her than i was i guess - she is a stay at home mom and i work full time and lend my time to my kids activities all the time.....if i were to do anything different before she went off and hid a 6 month long affair from me....it would have been to pay a little more attention to her and maybe she would not have done what she did.
biggest pet peve about people who cheated is when they say they made a "mistake"....no they made a "decision" and decisions have consiquences.
i tried the therapy route with her a couple of times a long way back and she declined.
my focus is my kids these days, still GAL mostly by exercising and taking time for myself once in a while.
i am not an "eye for an eye" kind of person, and not trying to punish anyone, not even myself....but as anyone who has been in my shoes knows, this is the most devistating thing one can endure in a marriage, and trust me it has taken a toll on me not so much physically (other than more grey hair...lol) but i am metally exhausted at times.
Gman
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
