My pleasure, DG. We're all here for ourselves and each other.
I, too, have had several close friends (of both my W and me) tell me I should kick her to the curb, file and move on. And believe me, lately I've been tempted, especially with her EA continuing to ramp up while she says, "No, we're just friends".
But I'm not there, and I don't think you are, either. We are learning what unconditional love is, because for us to still love our spouses while they tear our hearts out is as unconditional as I think anyone can be.
Our spouses are lost, confused, scared, guilt-ridden and searching for something they cannot even identify. Their misery has come from within, not from without. Yes, we probably did and said terrible things to our spouses during our M's; I know I did. But for the most part they also gave as good as they got, and they chose the easy fix; at least that is how it appears to them.
If the worst happens, at least we will be stronger and know that we did everything we could do to keep our M's alive.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
