OnMyWay: to who knows where?

[AJM80]

That is really interesting - I heard about a study that said they had strangers stare in each others eyes. After 5 min, they started to feel a loving connection and one pair even began dating afterwards. Lol, I thought about getting WAH to do it at the time.

Watching your manners helps make it feel like a safe, positive place. My dad told me that as his gfather was dying from a painful cancer, cussing and swearing, when his gmother came in he'd still flip that respectful, loving switch and the language and energy would change. I thought that showed a great love and awareness.

I like that she, while ripped apart with pain/uncertainty, is telling you what she is feeling, telling you she doesn't want to hurt you, and seems to be honest. She's still looking for an easy/selfish way (you move out), so keep doing what you're doing while she, hopefully, keeps maturing.

[OnMyWay]

That is really interesting - I heard about a study that said they had strangers stare in each others eyes. After 5 min, they started to feel a loving connection and one pair even began dating afterwards. Lol, I thought about getting WAH to do it at the time.

LOL. I actually had the opportunity on Saturday to do just that. I told WAW I had read this book, was finding the topic interesting, and had some interesting results with it. I told her there was one exercise I had done and would she do it. She agreed. We looked each other in the eyes for 3 minutes. She was uncomfortable at first, giggling constantly, which was to be expected. However, I'd of never imagined she'd end up crying as hard and as long as she did. She made it through though. Stayed on the whole 3 minutes. Then told me she'd never felt so vulnerable before in her life. Fascinating.

I don't think we've made any "new" connection, however, coupled with our previous conversations, I can conclude she has been thinking about a lot of things as of late. I think not so much about "us," but perhaps about where she is at. Almost is if she's pondering the "Is my life really better right now?" question. Her attitude towards me is decidedly different. Can't say if that is a good thing or not, but it seems as if she entering a different phase of life somehow. She seems full of regret.

For one thing, I know she's broke. She was over last night for a bit to see D. She had worked but hadn't eaten all day and didn't want me to make her anything. I insisted and she decided she would eat, yet insisted on cooking it for herself.

Interesting how she seems to have hit bottom, but is staying there for a while.