Something that you have always wanted to do that you didn't, either because you thought he wouldn't like it, or you couldn't because of the kids?
Something FUN...
Something that might seem out of character for you...but is a secret desire...
Me? I always portrayed myself, and thought of myself, as conservative, in dress, in demeanor, because it was what I thought my H wanted and because I thought it set a good example for my S.
Truth, inside, I am only slightly conservative. And mostly in thought...
Things that I always wanted but didn't think others would approve of (especially H and my mother) were a tattoo and a body piercing...
I gave myself every excuse in the book not to do either...money, afraid of needles, couldn't find a tattoo I liked...
All of those were valid reasons to a small degree, but they were really excuses for me not letting my true self emerge...
Because I was afraid people wouldn't like the me that was inside...
It took me some time in this process, but I finally got the tattoo...
When I decided to do it, it was a matter of a day to pick it out and go get it done (after thinking about it for 20 years), and actually I got two.
A few months later, I got my belly button pierced...(sorry Eric, if you are reading, that I have tarnished that maternal image you had of me LOL)
Nope, not having my own MLC...
Each of these things and others as well, have given me the strength and desire to allow myself the freedom to show me to the world...
You may not want something so permanent, but I would be willing to bet there is something, that is on your bucket list, that could really boost your PMA...
What might that be?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
