The BIG D and its Path of Destruction

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I totally agree. It takes awhile to get to the point where you no longer feel like you have to respond back in anger to them. I know you used to tell me that in my own sitch.

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If it helps any, when my W used to go on a crazy rant, I would actually visualize her as one of those crazy homeless people you see wandering around muttering to themselves. It really put things in perspective. The odd thing is that today, my W doesn't even remember all the stuff she used to say to me.

Thanks Bond for dropping in on my thread. I could feel myself getting ready to defend myself. The temp was rising, so it was best to hang up and be on my way.

The visualization does help. It wouldn’t surprise me if my W doesn’t remember things either. She said in Feb that she forgets the whole thing with the OM in Nov/Dec and is glad she came to her senses before it went further. Apparently she hasn’t completely come to her senses.