Well so much for his "expert" opinion. So done is done. Bottom line is that you need to stop thinking you need to "fix" the marriage. It puts unnecessary burden on you and your W. You never stopped with the expectations and she never took on the responsibility of dealing with your hurts and insecurities.
I see two people who care for each other, but aren't addressing what needs to be addressed. So you end up like a dog chasing it's tail going round and round in circles with the each of you "hurting" the other without meaning to.
I can tell you that throughout this journey you're going to get hit with constant ups and downs. They don't call it a rollercoaster for nothing. You need to change your mindset so that you stay on an even keel and not get thrown off your goal when you hit a bump on the road.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
