My Final Chapter

[25yearsmlc]

2step,

For the most part, I get it. Your post contained facts I did not know. But fwiw

I posted elsewhere today about what I'd do if my h had an OW. It relates.

I used to say "Dealbreaker, black & white" to me.

But instead, I said "that depends" and one thing it would depend on

is whether my h was acting as if all was well in our m

And if I thought all was well and we seemed happy, AND if I was "awake"
and felt close to h and h seemed close to me...

only to learn h had an OW....???

aside from the deep hurt I'd feel-

it would just make me so confused and eternally distrustful of my whole world view and perceptions...that

it'd be a dealbreaker.

However, It MIGHT NOT BE a dealbreaker

[b]IF[/b] I knew we were having trouble AND if I felt at least partly

responsible for h's needs not being met.

That would at least be worth discussing...


but long term deceit, and pretense, would erode too much in me.

And in a sense, it's just a different reason you have for feeling the same way.

I trust your heart and mind to do the right thing so,

So, No arguments here. Esp since you've been through this before, sort of.

I hope you have learned about women here, what I've learned here about men...

which is that men (& women) have loyal hearts and are essentially good inside...they want and need, mostly,

what we need and want from them.

I think we want A good friend, an engaged lover, a trusted confidante.

If you are as you appear to be, you are the above^^^, and you deserve the same.

((( )))