I get that MLC is a process, and it is most always a lengthy one at that. It is quite possible that my W's MLC will extend past the date of our future D, if she gets her wish for independence.
If then she moves onto another (hopefully healthy)relationship and the handwriting is on the wall for their future, well then me moving on is the wise and mature thing to do. Hoping for a turn around in this sitch is delusional to say the least. If she later decides she's made a mistake and we start warming up to one another, then I'd certainly be open (assuming I am available). I will never say never.
If after the D she remains single, but friendly to me, I too will continue to stand, continue to work on myself, and see which direction she eventually takes. It may include me, it may not. I would love nothing more than for her to one day realize the value of what she has given up, so standing under those circumstances would be just fine by me. She would be worth the wait.
