Beatrice, You sound very grounded and I think you are one wise lady to be patient and watch the drama as it unfolds. I think your xh does realize that he screwed up royally and now doesn't know how to make things right.
If you can be patient for a while, I'd let him figure out how to squeese through the crack in the wall. It's tough, but we do have to allow them to do the work in order to make it back to us. Hang in there. I think your xh's drama is going to be very intersting in the months to come.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
