been a while...

[gman]

i have tried to forgive, but the unanswered questions make it very difficult to this.

everyones version of forgivness is just that, their own. so i am sure that in the eyes of others that all versions of forgivness are flawed to some extent, which makes us human, the ability to form thoughts, opinions and conclusions.

forgivness....does not make one forget either.

i do think i need to clear up the way i wrote soemthing earlier about "so many unfaithful people" - i was not refering to this site or people who confess their problems on her, just that sadly being unfaithful and divorcing has become the norm in this day and age.

i will address the comment that suggests that my children will see one blow to an ego as defeat....i have sheilded my children from this situation, they are unaware that she cheated on their father and i intend to keep it that way.....yes children are very aware, and i caught myself with a negative attitude towards her...and it rubbed off on them in the way they treated her...that was the day i made sure i never acted disrepectful to her again (about a year ago if you were wondering).

but like i said, without the kids involved this would have been done that night because i have learned it is pretty much a "releationship" breaker to me.

Gman