Piecing my marriage back together again.

[MrBond]

HG,

WTF's the matter with you? Do you know how many here would kill for the chance to have their W's open up to them to fix their marriages? Your W comes here and pretty much tells you EXACTLY what she needs and how she can be comforted, yet you crap all over that and then whine about how you messed up.

You've been doing that from day one. What exactly have you changed? Nothing. Zilch. Nada.

"Here’s my plan; stay engaged in DB, stay in counseling, read, and research, be patient and respectful; finally, communicate with respect and love."

NO! This plan is crap. "communicate with respect and love" THAT is what you should do first. Not last. It's no wonder why you've screwed up.

She's gone dude. You've said the same promises here over and over again, and then continue to break them. Each time you do, you're at ground zero. There are so many times you can bomb your W before she takes off and you've more than past that limit.

So you f'd up. Now what is your definite plan of action? Right down a schedule and stop with the expectations.