So...am I still a newcomer?

[aeolianchaos]

It just astounds me that the woman I love so deeply and who I thought I knew so well - and I know I'm preaching to the choir - has become this cold, heartless, selfish person who I do not recognize at all.

Amen. Testify.. It is painful to feel like the person you thought you married has changed in these ways. I found that realizing this actually upset me more than when my W told me she wanted to D.