XYZ is here, but I won't be staying...

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I need to keep doing what has worked, GAL, don't chase - let her chase me, no neediness, etc. Only problem here is where to draw the line on time together and when to initiate that.

I found, for me, that I would offer to spend time together, but that I wouldn't be upset if she declined. My GALing, ability to do so, helped.

I also knew that she required 'alone time' and truth be told so did I. It wasn't quanity, so much as quality. Prior to all of this, we had plenty of quanity...what had faded was quality.

I did have similar thoughts as you do. I just had a bag of 'tricks' (although I hesitate to call them tricks) to fall back upon.