Tipper, I think the biggest problem you have right now is dealing with the fear that "you might loose him if you say the wrong thing" Honey, don't you realize that he is hanging on to you? Tipper, do you not see the pattern? 25 Yrs. hit the nail on the head. Set a boundary with him and he will text you "I'm getting a divorce next week" Tell you what, the next communication you have with him, tell him the following, anyway you want to put it. " Your quitting drinking is a non-negotiable for me, I don't wish to live my life with an alcoholic for the rest of my life" I'll bet a month's pay he says back " I'm filing next week" Reply to that in this manner. "I'm sorry you feel that way, I will support your decision, but please respect my reasons for feeling the way I do" Then see what happens.... Wanna bet he starts changing his tune? You just took all his power from him. His game is trying to get you to accept his drinking, if you take a stand and tell him you are done with it, he has to ask himself which one is more important, you or the booze.... If he picks you, great, you win! If he picks the booze, you still win, you don't want a life with an alcoholic, I too have dealt with that as a child, its no fun. Anyway, Tipper, I think YOU need to take change, set your boundary, and tell HIM what it will take to get YOU back!
