I have to let it go Starsky. There isn't much else I can do about it. It has caused me enough stress to feel like someone beat me up.
A little Monday morning craziness....
Note: W and I were both born and raised in the same small town in NM.
My W calls me first thing this morning while I was getting ready for work.
W: It has already started, the rumors are already flying. Someone told my friend's mom that I am abandoning my kids. I haven't even told my family anything, so it is coming from your side. I know how your mom likes to gossip. Tell her to watch what she says.
M: My mom hasn't told my sisters. I don't know who is spreading rumors. I don't know what to tell you.
W: I know it isn't you. It has to be your mom.
M: I have already asked my mom not tell anyone anything. I have to go. I need to finish getting ready for work.
This is part of the reason I do not want to live in NM. I do not like dealing with this crazy drama.
My W(STBX) does not take responsibility for any of this mess. She looks to blame anyone, but herself. I know she has told her family, because she said this yesterday......
W: My step-mom and my half sister can't believe it.
M: Can't believe which part?
W: That you are fighting for the kids.
M: What a ridiculous idea, a father would fight for his kids.
End of that part of this discussion.
I talked to my mom again this morning to let her know what had taken place and to let her know that they are gunning for her.
so I guess she's saying no one has noticed she is there, and her kids are not?
Could that possibly by why rumors are flying? You know, b/c of the FACTS?
If you are going to engage at all, give her a tiny concise dose. Like, "w, don't you think it's possible people have seen you there without the kids and wondered about it?
REGARDLESS, I am not going to take responsibility for what others say about your conduct. I've been very clear with you and that's all I'm responsible for."
The letter was what you know it was. But it is done and that's that. Blame the lawyers and move on.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
