Denver you know a little bit of my situation......altho there was no OP's involved...My hubby didn't know that. I had a few ole unhappy married men approach me and i wasn't interested. I could have been unfaithful because at the time...I had left the marriage emotionally long ago. I didnt take that road. Your wife did and if I was 28 again I might of.
Remember she was done......
My hubby didnt call unless it had to do with business. He didn"t ask what I had been doing , OR going, OR who I was with and believe me it was liberating......and guess what ...It made me think....huh....maybe I had better reconnect and see why he wasn't interested... I had a few problems at my Mom's house ...after a big storm and guess who came to help...yep Hubby was there for me when I needed him and not there when I was feeling smothered!! He " once again.....LET ME MISS HIM.....I know your situation where you feel you neglected her and did your own thing.... You cant change the past ...but you can make a brighter future. With or without her.
Please back off...just a little
Work on the NEW denver.
One thing I learned along time ago when I start obsessing on our relationship ( worrying, wondering, ) is to put up this STOP sign in my mind. ( old alanon / AA tool ) I made myself stop and go do something, anything to take my mind off whatever situation I was in.
But...I'm not an A type personality more of a B or C LOL
