Seems to me that newbie guys like me are generally dead men walking.
You are only a dead man walking if that is what YOU choose!
You are in control of YOU.
You have no control over your spouse but you do have control over what YOUR life can be. That is the essence of DB. MLC is a process. We must all accept the process. We can make it worse but we can not make it better.
The true facts are that the LBS is normally the one that decides that it is over. Most give up or go into another relationship. But that is YOUR decision, no one elses.
As far as your children are concerned, you can just be the BEST possible DAD in the world. Your children will notice and they too can heal. Let them make their own relationships with their MOM. That is not your problem. They will decide and she will have to put on her BIG girls panties and live with the consequences of HER decision.
MW MLC takes TIME, as an LBS all you can do is make the best use of your Gift of Time.
