That is really interesting - I heard about a study that said they had strangers stare in each others eyes. After 5 min, they started to feel a loving connection and one pair even began dating afterwards. Lol, I thought about getting WAH to do it at the time.
Watching your manners helps make it feel like a safe, positive place. My dad told me that as his gfather was dying from a painful cancer, cussing and swearing, when his gmother came in he'd still flip that respectful, loving switch and the language and energy would change. I thought that showed a great love and awareness.
I like that she, while ripped apart with pain/uncertainty, is telling you what she is feeling, telling you she doesn't want to hurt you, and seems to be honest. She's still looking for an easy/selfish way (you move out), so keep doing what you're doing while she, hopefully, keeps maturing.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem