Hmmm - any views on this one? My youngest son [adult] is staying at my house for a while. This morning he gets a call from my xh at my house. This is my new house, and he doesn't have the number, so he found it out [no-one I know would have given it to him], and rang [checked the phone later and it was a number withheld] Son's girl friend answered the phone.
I am disturbed by this, including the number withheld stuff - youngest son and his father are pretty estranged [his father has behaved very hurtfully to him over the years since he left] and I feel he has no right to call here, and disturb us. A boundary feels violated. I know that for those of you who are in regular contact with their MLCers this will seem like I am making a big fuss, but I believe my xh knows that this is a big deal for me. Just needed to vent.
Son isn't happy about it either. he hasn't seen his father in a long time - probably nearly two years. It isn't punishment, he says his father depresses him and he doesn't feel he owes him anything any more. Has tried to help him in the past, but been rejected repeatedly, and then pursued. I am not interfering in their r, btw, I would like them to be able to heal their differences, but that is between them. The two older ones are gradually doing this.
On the other hand xh is reaching out a bit. Need to process all of this, and decide if I am being unreasonable.
