Thanks WCW, I have thought about it tonight and decided that if I talk to him at all tonight I will call or text him and let him know that I need to see actions before we just jump right back into a relationship.
I feel I need to set some ground rules up. Such as lets take a week or so to see how sobriety is going for him. Then maybe we can get together briefly to talk about things. If that goes well, then maybe we could set up M counseling.
I am just so afraid that he will slip again. Cold turkey is just not practical for most alcoholics. Last time it only lasted him a day.
This time only feels different to me becuase he is not just saying that he wants to do what he can to get sober, but also that he would do anything to get back our relationship. Last time , he said he knew he had to get sober, but he was saying he felt that our M was still over. This time, he is showing me the desire in words at least that he wants to work on our M.
I am so scared to push him away with demands though. However, I know that I need to see actual actions to believe him. I miss him so much it is hard to resist wanting to just get together with him soon, but I know I have to be patient and watch from afar. I like your suggestion to keep communication brief. I will try to do just that.
I will try to update through out this week any progress, if I see any. Thanks, TIPPER
