The BIG D and its Path of Destruction

[25yearsmlc]

not sure how your w got you to answer the question about why SHE moved away


b/c even your answer suggests she chose "not getting along" over sticking around

and why couldn't she find a place closer for her time out?

Granted the mother's illness makes it more...plausible? Or reasonable.

2 years ago my h went to care for his terminally ill mother on the east coast. I switched with him and so did our son and my BIL.

But mostly it was h, who found a job nearby and stayed there off and on for nearly a year,

I finally insisted she live with us or find other arrangements b/c a year apart was not doing us any good and we have d13 here...So mil would come for periods of time. But she wanted to be near her dogs and in her own home...very tough on all of us and her.

It was very difficult when she did come here b/c her lung cancer had gone to the brain and she required 24/7 attention care, literally. Otherwise she'd fall down stairs, wander off or burn the house down. So it was yours truly caring for her. God forgive me for saying this but so she wasn't "great company'
either. It was so very draining on me.

I learned a lot about what I DO NOT want if and when it's me in that situation.

L,

how ill is your mil?

what is her diagnosis exactly? I ask b/c this will come out and might make you look heartless

if it is spun by her L the way your lawyer spun your sitch.

I don't say that to hurt you but may I ask if you feel "committed" to the L you have?

Are you comfortable enough to tell her you want a different tone?

YOU are in charge of your case, fyi.

I've had clients tell me to go for broke and others to be gentle. I only "go for broke" if I think it's wise and it's usually NOT

but sometimes the other L is a jerk, and sometimes the other spouse is a bully.

Depends. I want to know if your lawyer is part of a firm or is solo. FWIW
I never recommend solo practioners unless they've worked at firms for decades. I believe in team work and having other L's to discuss cases& judges with.

I think your w, IF she reads the contents OR IF her L says anything about it,

she will feel you drew first blood. Be ready for that, not defensive, but ready.


Why do YOU believe you will get custody? I am not saying you won't. I think you will but I want to hear you say why, and what your L thinks as well.

SIGH

I THINK, the worst of it will probably be over within a few months.

Um that's all I have about the "good news"...

sorry L,



Remember you are doing what YOU believe is best for your children.

IF you fight in front of them or the kids hear it, say it's


b/c you both want so much to be with them that you are working hard to figure it all out.

You both want to know how you

can them as much as possible b/c you both love them so much...


it's the best spin I can think of, in a terrible sitch.

((( )))