I have been talking to a female friend that really has an interest in me. I don't have one in her. However, she has a friend and a mother that have both gone through this in their 40's. Her mom was 46 and her friend was 43. My W is 44. She has given me a lot of great advice and insight.
For others, it might be helpful to post what you are learning, Tad. For yourself, please be careful to understand that what they went through is what they went through. Everyone is different, even though the similarities are there.
You are a good man Tad. You have to understand that this is not about you and the making you out to be evil is not what you are. It's what she creates in her mind. Why? Who really knows? But it is what it is.
The distance helps the most. Detaching is for YOU Tad. While it will help all around, a lot of that is because it is you getting better. Focus on you getting better. It'll make more sense later
Keep stepping Tad.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
