Read a few more of your recent threads. So sorry to see your heart aches so badly after contact with your Ex. Have you started to date, or seen anyone on a regular basis?
Man, I know how much you miss her. The family time together is also tough. I briefly fantasize that everything is OK when we get together with the kids. Not healthy as it is extremely depressing afterwords.
Your sitch is so tough because your kids are still so young. You have years of continued contact with your Ex before the kids are grown. I don't know what you do about that. Detachment is much easier said than done. Even if you've already been GAL, the old feelings are still there and the wounds probably never quite heal.
My heart goes out to you. Hang in there. You're a good man. She will have to deal with that mistake one day, of that you can be sure. It won't be pretty. So sad, and so unnecessary.
