The BIG D and its Path of Destruction

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I have a lot to update, but don't have much time. I'll post the meat of it.

I did let my W know that my L filed some papers and the kids will be staying with me until the hearing. I asked her if my L could call her to arrange getting them to her. She agreed, however she called back to ask if it can wait until she hires counsel to be done between the lawyers. Of course I agreed.

She still doesn’t see how a judge will award me custody. She said, “we are going to go through out this and I’m still probably going to end up with the kids”.

My L just sent me a TM and said that we will have to serve her at work or home. Ugh!! Craziness.

After a convo where she tried to guilt me about the same things as before, she wanted to tell the kids. She wanted to tell them that they aren't coming to NM, it wasn't her choice and we are getting a divorce. I told her that I wasn’t going to let that happen. Also, that it isn’t right or fair that she wants to throw me under the bus. The reason she wanted to do that is because she doesn’t want to kids to feel like she doesn’t want them.

I told her that I never threw her under the bus and that it was her decision to tear our family apart.

She agreed to let me do the talking while letting the kids know. This is what I said, “Mommy and daddy have something to tell you. Some things have come up and you guys will be staying with me for awhile longer. When mommy and daddy can get everything worked out, we will let you know. In the meantime, mommy and daddy love you both very much and we will make sure that you are taken care of.”

They took it well. My D8 was disappointed that she isn’t going to be seeing her cousins. And she asked this question.

“Mommy, why did you move to NM?”

My W asked me to answer the question.

“Sometimes just like kids, adults don’t get along. Unlike kids, adults have a harder time forgetting things. So right now mommy and daddy are having a timeout.”

The kids got over it quite quickly. Within a couple of minutes they were talking about getting a Wii or and Xbox. Not sure where they came up with that, as I do not have either.

Anyway, I gotta run.