Thank you 25. The support of this board has been tremendous and that is an understatement.
and as for the damage to the kids
they'll be damaged anyhow. Their mother left their father...(oh yeah, that)
Exactly. You can see the differences in my responses from the convo we had on Tuesday night vs my responses from the convo yesterday. I listen to the great advice that I receive on here.
I would wait, think about the question and then respond.
You are doing damage control now. It's called stability and that's huge to kids and courts. Plus, dare I say where you are living now (Bay?)
Yes, I live in South San Francisco.
is going to be a lot better for them than NM.
But I'm snobby that way.
I grew up in NM and I have no desire to go back there or leave the bay area right now. This area has so much to offer and I have a great job. There isn’t much of a comparison IMO.
And your mom will have to work on yelling of hers, but at least she's not bedridden with headaches
Yes, my mom does need to work on her yelling. When my W brought it up yesterday, it wasn’t a surprise. I reminded my mom again today and she is well aware that we can’t give them any ammo against us.
(that sounds meaner than I meant it to...yikes! This is spreading )
LOL…..I sense some frustration and I’d guess from this post, it is that my W continuously tries to guilt me and place blame?
She told me this before she left, “I’m glad you get it, because some people live their entire lives and don’t get it”. I found that statement to be ironic.
Tomorrow (6/26) is another big day.
First, I need to let my W know that she will be receiving the court order and give her a heads up of the content. I don’t plan on giving her too much detail.
I’d like to get feedback if I should let her know that the kids will be starting school here or that they will be here until the hearing in September(on her 40th birthday, which I will not give her the exact date)? Or should I let her find out when she gets the docs?
She is going to be PO’d that I already knew the order was in place when we talked yesterday and I didn’t say anything. She is going to be PO’d anyway, but that will just add fuel to the fire.
We will be letting the kids know that they will not be moving to NM in July.
During our convo yesterday, my W brought this up. W: How am I supposed to hold it together when we tell them?
M: I don’t have an answer for you?
She tried to play the “poor me” card at least a couple of times.
It’s been a long day and I’m rambling. I hope anyone reading can make heads or tails of this post.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
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