Nearly 5 years but who is counting?

[missmyfriend]

@snowmm, please stay here. No need to go to another thread. This isn't about me. It is about all of us and helping each other through this. It is good to read your posts again. I remember seeing some of your posts when I was more active here.

I'm truly sorry that your husband is still in a fog but it sounds typical of one of the stages of a MLC. And hang on to God's promises. He hates divorce and He didn't cause this to happen but He will make something good come from it.

Snowmm, than you for the encouragement. Even though I should only worry about what God tells me, it is a nice change of pace from many of my friends and family who cannot believe that I am still standing 5 years later.

@Dawn, I don't think you are hijacking at all. I am to the point where I pray that my situation can help others and the more we have working through this together, the better. And there isn't enough discussing God's role in our lives. He has become a bad word to most people. He seems to get credit for all of the bad but none of the good. If bad happens, God must have caused it but if good happens, it is because we personally made it happen. I am not criticizing people who feel that way but God doesn't commit evil. The evil in the world has been caused by ourselves.

Yes, I read Charlyne Cares. I was so sad when her husband passed a couple of months ago. What an awesome couple. And I get a newsletter from someone on their staff, that went through the same thing as us, when his wife left for over 7 years. She came back, they remarried, and she passed away a couple of years later. They have helped me through some very difficult times. I also read a lot of Psalms which has saved my life on many occasions.

Regarding being unable to forgive your husband, I can only recommend that you pray to God on that. Forgiving your husband isn't as much for your husband as much as it is for you. God has really helped me in that area. I find myself having to forgive my wife again for some extremely hurtful things she has done to me recently. I feel very sorry for her since I think she has completely cut God out of her life for now. I pray that God will soften her heart to Him and will allow God to love her.

@Grace, I've missed you a lot! Your posts have helped me immensely in years past. I know you are right about the children; it is hard to deal with the pain while I am living the separation from them and seeing that they are making some bad decisions. How are you doing?