you are very lucky she is here. Don't assume she always will be.
For you to lose your temper at her now, with what is at stake, is just very UNhealthy.
Have you seen a c about this? I'm a veteran and married to one as well. There are resources within the military and you can outsource it and maintain confidentiality unless you are a threat to the moral/welfare of your soldiers or self.
IOW don't use the excuse that it would hurt your military career to get help. That's an outdated belief/excuse. (my h and I were both field grade officers & I know there are things that can hurt your career. Like losing your temper at work OR having your rater learn that you lose it a lot at home).
Hmm, come to think of it, I would bet you don't lose your temper at work b/c you'd be court-martialed if you did.
So why not contain the temper at home too? You obviously know how to.
Prove me wrong about the bullying. I want to be wrong. I really do.
My fil, a retired Marine,
was a bully too. He's on his 4th wife.
I have to say, he bottomed out before he met her and began to change and evolve b/c he did not want to be alone the rest of his life
and he met a widow from a happy marriage who had healthy boundaries and did not need him or his money (she was independently wealthy)
He has evolved into the best h HE can be (meaning, although he can still be overbearing and boorish, which makes for a lot FEWER visits with the kids)
he is still a lot better than he was with his first 3 wives, all of whom left him.
And he is definitely happier than before.
HE changed....can you?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
