The short term gain is getting less and less as time goes on. The feeling of regret and "don't go down this road" is happening almost immediately after the words come out of my mouth.
I think my ego and pride are getting in the way decency and respect.
I don't mean to offend but I'm going to be blunt.
I don't know if it's pride/ego so much as
you are simply a bully with a nasty temper.
When you lose your temper or make a cutting remark, you hurt someone.
An apology helps in the moment, but it does NOT ease or erase the pain you inflicted.
At some point, a spouse has had enough. With women, usually we only drop a bomb when there's very little love left in our tank b/c as long as there is some, we tend to stay. It's unfortunate in a way.
There are men who really will change if they fear losing their families but the tragedy is that even if the w stays, the R's with her and the kids and the bully are never as good as they could have been....
It'd be great if someone simply listened to what the spouse said
and cared enough about the pain they were inflicting, to change
EVEN WITHOUT the threat of losing them.
The real question is--How would marriage to you from this day forward,
be different than marriage to you before?
If you cannot show your w with actions, that it would be better
how can you restore the m or get her to recommit?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
