XYZ is here, but I won't be staying...

[XYZ]

J3B - I need some of your sage advice. I can see that I'm already at risk of falling into the trap you mentioned above and I'm trying to avoid it...

After close to a year of dealing with a WAW, I feel like I (finally) got to a point where I sort of understood her (at least to the point where a WAW can be understood). I guess what I mean, is that nothing surprised me any more and I understood how my words and actions would be perceived and interpreted.

I totally lack that insight now in piecing and I'm confused. I don't get the mindset of the former-WAW or understand the process they are going through. I'm hoping you can enlighten me.

Here's my current sitch:
* "ILY" has returned in full force (both verbal and written) in both directions. She tells me she never stopped loving me.
* We both agree that we'll stay apart until a bit further in the process.
* We have had some really great conversations over the last couple of days.
* Phone conversations are light and non-stressful with a tone that is similar to "old-style" us.
* She told me it feels good to be able to safely tell me she loves me
* She texted me that she "feels much love from me, again" but hopes "baby steps will be ok" - I respond that I am patient and in no rush; want to do it right not fast.
* She asked me tonight to let her know if I am out of touch for a while because I didn't reply to some texts today (I went hiking and didn't get them)
HOWEVER....
* W doesn't want to change the schedule by adding extra meals together or anything to confuse the kids - Exact phrase is "we should wait" to do that.
* She says "we have some time" before I move home.
* No kissing or touching of any kind yet

NOW...of course I'm willing to take as long as it takes. I do not want to pressure her at all, but I would like to start understand her mindset because some items (no extra time together "yet", etc) seems so contradictory to me and understanding on my part makes it easier to do....

I mentioned your warning because I was disappointed about her comment on no extra meals and can see what you were talking about...

Thanks in advance