Thanks Denver and Starsky. I'm still beating myself about the letter.
Quick update:
My W doesn't have an attorney. I've been texting mine back and forth about giving my W the courtesy about receiving the order. I asked her if I can personally give a heads up and that I feel the letter will destroy any chance of R if one existed. Her response was "oh well, it's the truth".
My L did agree that she will call my W after I talked to her to save her anymore humiliation.
I'm between a rock and a hard spot. I need a miracle.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa