Well, last night when my wife and I finished watching TV at 8 pm I stated I was going to finish my homework and she had already stated that she was going to bed after the TV show. So, as we got it she was close to me and we kissed goodnight. She stated not to stay up late and to come to bed soon. Nothing was going to happen, but my problem with all of this is that I kissed her. It was just a peck on the lips and I said I love you to which she responded in kind. I did the same thing this morning when I left for work. We drive different vehicles in on Wednesday's because that's my school night. So, this morning, I gave her a quick peck on the lips and said I love you and she responded in kind. I just think I blew it as far as not initiating any kind of affection since she stopped wanting to have sex with me because it would be cheating on OM.
OMG....
Sorry but get a helmet on b/c here come some 2 x 4s.
You are NOT doing 180s...you are NOT DBing...you are pursuing big time...
what's it going to take for you to seriously change your approach?
newsflash; YOUR APPROACH IS NOT WORKING
SO YOU HAVE TO CHANGE IT...
I feel like an idiot. It just seemed the way she was standing both times that she wanted to kiss. It wasn't much of a kiss either time though so I guess I'm upset about that too. I should've just walked away from her both times and not even kissed her or said I love you.
Correct ^^^
Any ideas? Was it okay what I did?
No it is not okay. It's more pursuit, as if she isn't already aware of your wants & needs and painfully obvious availability.
Did you really read the 37 Rules I sent you? Read them again and again and print them out and look at them every single day...
I haven't gotten any responses from anyone in awhile so maybe I'm just DBing along and doing what I need to be doing, i.e., GAL. I don't know. I just leave it up to God and just keep saying that He's in control. I'm doing my part now by GAL and helping the Lord help me.
You are NOT Doing your part! Don't hide behind your faith and use it as an excuse to remain paralyzed.
Be brave!
Do not confuse "standing for your m" with standing still. THat's what I see you as doing...basically tolerating the intolerable for years...
A real 180 would be filing and getting her out of the house.
When she sees OM staying in his m, even though she's totally free...
well then, some of the lustre might wear off...
you don't have to finalize a div but you have to get off the pot. It's YOU who is undecided.
She's certain of her path (which always looks better in the tragic romantic version since she thinks they are Romeo & Juliette and the world is preventing them from marrying...)
I think she's waiting for you to die or leave OR for OM to leave his w, or for lightning to strike.
She's not looking at you as an option. And she's not getting treatment for her many issues.
Are you?
What are YOU doing to create some mystery about where you go or who you are with?
I have no idea what your son is learning from this, but it isn't healthy and it is not coming from God.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
