I read your thread tonight and while reading it I was cheering for you and hoped for a happy ending. And as I read I got angry. What is wrong with these people? My husband filed for divorce in May and I am DBing my butt off, and although we have great positive experiences, he hasn't budged in his determination to end our marriage. (You can read my thread under My heart is breaking. I don't know how to include the link-sorry!) I swear, your wife, as well as so many others, sounds exactly like my H. It's like they all studied the same handbook! He says so many of the same words. The difficulty I have is that we have been married almost 28 years and I love him with everything in me. He really is a great guy, but I believe he is in full blown MLC. (although instead of the convertible, he has thrown himself into his job and "saving the world") I am still praying so hard that somehow he will turn things around.
But, as for you, your wife is an idiot. You sound like such a great, level headed man. We all make mistakes in our marriages, and guilt is eating me up as well, but when it comes right down to it...WE CHOSE TO STAY. That makes us the better people. I have struggled because my husband really did treat me better than I treated him. And I have apologized and had to forgive myself as well. But I still feel like I have taken the high road and he has taken the coward's way out. And you, my friend, can hold your head up high. You have learned so much and have become a better, stronger person. I only hope I can come out of this nightmare being able to say the same thing.
Well, I just wanted to thank you for such an inspirational thread. I seriously have gained a lot of insight from your journey.
I wish you well. Be proud of yourself and be happy.
kermit
M50 H49 M 27 years D24, S21 Bomb 7/10 SEP 12/10 H files 5/11
Praying Hard for restoration! With God all things are possible!
