Somewhere on here I read when its MLC - its not us the LBS - its them and their journey but that I have see how I contrubuted to demise of the m. Well to me that is confusing. Which is it?
Life,
It is both.
MLC happens not because of us but despite us. There are things in their past, things that they need to work through...
They spend time running from those things, seeking things that make them happy.
When the crisis begins, they try different things, clothes, activities, and as they find that they are still not happy, then they begin to look at us...because the reason must NOT be something within them...
There are things that each of us did that were problems for our S. Things that were problems in the M, even if they were small...
You have to look at the things he said to you, were you controlling? Did you act like his mother? How were your house keeping skills? Your sex life? ETC...
Find the things that he said that were true and honest complaints and fix those things...
Begin to make yourself happy...
What you learn on this journey, will be invaluable to your future..
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
