Keep your chin up. Really, the best we can reasonably expect out of the MLC implosion is to remain friends with our ex-spouses. Even if you have to fake it, it's worth it for your boys. The nature of the interaction between the two of you will define them as time goes on. You must be the better man at all times. Believe me, I've got a few choice words for my W I'd like to get off my chest, but really, what purpose would that serve? None, that's what. Also, keep all this bullsh!t way from your boys. Early on, I made mistakes in this regard and nearly alientated my girls in the process. No more.
Your W probably did what mine did. Entered MLC, worked out like a mad woman, and now looks the best she has in years. You think to yourself, man I'm one lucky slob. I mean she's beautiful, right? Then, BOOM! ILYBIDLY ... crap! Then she leaves you. Hooks up with a kook, and expects you to SMILE during all this! I mean, really? But you gotta do it, for your boys. She's out of her mind, so deal with her like you'd deal with any crazy person. Do not provoke them. My W's OM is one huge slacker, 45-year old stoner that lives with his aunt & uncle. OMG, how crazy is that? But really, as they say, OM is but a symptom and not the cause.
Tad, I have my good days and bad days. Today actually sucked. Missed her badly for no real reason. Do you have a close confidant that is not yet sick of listening to you? I've had to stop talking to all of my friends about this, as I was starting to look extremely pathetic. However, I am lucky to be close to my step MIL. She's been my salvation and supports my clandestine efforts to wait for my wife to work through W's MLC. Man, I know what you mean about GAL. Easier said than done, that's for sure when your full time parenting during all this. In you case, I mean, you are out of work with money stress on top of all this? Hang in there Tad, pray and know your are a good man. Most gals would be lucky to be with you and know what true love and live long loyaly are.
