Beatrice and Ever, thanks for sharing your insights. I am always so pleased to read the perspective of others and to let these ideas float around in my mind for a while as I make sense of 'where to next.'
Things can and do change along the way but I am so mindful of stories like Ever has presented of H's who reconnect but the connection is only temporary.
In my case H has been spending more time with me and is showing more thoughtful gestures and tiny signs that he wants this to work. I am, however, cautious and even sceptical. I am guarding and protecting myself.
