I haven't read all of your sitch, but I do have a question.
Can you explain why your D was dismissed? Just curious.
I'm going through the same Hell with my W.
Tad.
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13