My Final Chapter

[Denver_2010]

Telemark and BeTheMan - I'm happy that you guys found some usefulness in my last post here on 2Step's thread. BTW, sorry for the hijack 2Step... but I felt that I needed to respond to SBH's last post.

I just think that that type of thinking is contrary to why we are all here. And I think that it is dangerous advice to those who are new here.

It takes a lot of time to truly process what is happening with our situations. And we cannot properly respond or know what the best course of action is for each of US individually until we properly process.

It is waaaaayyyy to easy to look at things in these situations as being black and white... especially when an A is involved.

I have learned in my 7 months here that there is A LOT of gray.

I've also learned that acting out of anger, hurt or desperation is the wrong thing to do.

We all come here, not out of fear, but out of love for our Spouses. It is here and through our work here... that we learn how to love under the most difficult of circumstances.

And TRUST ME... all of this that I talk about has been as difficult for me, and on me, as it has been for anybody else. I have struggled and wanted to lash out at my W too... I've wanted to quit...

But I know at the end of the day, I will feel better about myself knowing that I left no stone unturned in trying to be a better man... and to save my M.

BITS
Denver