digging in again...feels like quicksand sometimes

[AntoniaB]

Brooklyn, as far as I am concerned, this is also a part of the "journey" for many people. You have to live your life. You are taking every precaution and being very up front about perhaps not being ready, and yet this man is still there for you. That's saying something. And whether he ends up being a romantic partner long term or not, you have to do what's best for you for today. A connection with someone else may give you a new perspective on relationships and on what's healthy vs what is not. It may be that someday this relationship will impact your decision, if this is the way it plays out, to reconcile with your XH if he comes knocking--or not reconcile. It's all happening for a reason.

You are so good at following your instincts, and if your instinct is telling you that you want to spend time with this man, then do it. Follow your heart because your heart has learned many lessons that are serving you right now as you embark on something entirely new for you.