The BIG D and its Path of Destruction

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You know what Denver said in your last thread is something to think about. Call the W and let her know what is coming and when all else fails blame the attorney. It always works. sorry 25, Denver, Count, harrier, and any other's out there.

That was great advice from both Denver and 25. I will definitely give her a heads up and I have already asked my L if we can get her the papers with as much dignity as possible. She said that she will.

Look I will not sugar coat anything for you at this point. Your sitch and mine are very similar and apart from Karma I don't know of any other sitch on the boards right now that have to deal with the distance factor.

In my mind it is a HUGE problem at any attempts to saving anything.

However

You must also realize that the word NEVER is a very powerful word and should not be used when referring to these situations.

I think I may have used the word NEVER when I said if she didn’t forgive me being emotionally distant, she will NEVER forgive me for the injunctive doc. Indeed a very powerful word. I hope she does find it in her heart to forgive me someday. My intentions were not to hurt her. Not before, not now and not tomorrow.

Distance is a problem but is also has its up side.

The downside is that you can't have the physical contact that you would have if you lived in the same town. You changes and actions can not been seen only spoken about and while it is true that you can show change even at a distance nothing can replace seeing the person.

The upside is that you really have no choice but to really concentrate on yourself. You are not doing anything to "show" her anything because there is no one there to see it. You heal quicker because you are not faced with the constant reminder. In this case TIME and SPACE does heal.

IF you are able to reconcile this in the future then you know what, she will find a way to you. The same effort put into establishing her new life can be put into rebuilding her R with you.

You have something I did not have.

Children together so in some way you will always be connected.

Absolutely.

I understand exactly what you mean regarding the distance. It presents its own set of challenges. My head and emotions are swimming. That last couple of days have been overwhelming to say the least. I’m ready to decompress for the weekend.

To think that this is only the beginning of this. The only way through it is through it.