Hi Scylla, I can relate to a lot of the stuff you've written in this thread.
Not knowing if you can continue, not letting the other persons negative comments get to you, having to acknowledge they treat you and have been treating you like crap, and on and on.
The quote you posted from ThatGirl007 really hits home too. I'm the guy who's been working so hard to change for six months. I understand how my wife could be reluctant. Still though I don't think I deserve some of the treatment I'm getting from her. This morning I had the oddest interaction with her. We've been talking a lot and getting along so well then she came into the house just as I was waking up to go to work, acted kind of neurotic and ended up swearing at me before leaving the house for an appointment. "Do whatever the f*** you want" she said - as if to imply "you always do". Which is a load of bull and she knows it. I don't deserve to be treated that way, to be sworn at, and she's the only person in my life that talks to me that way.
Even though I thought I was past being effected when she acts like that this morning I let that get to me. Not as much as I would have in the past, but still I know I'm in for more sad emotions surrounding this. She has a lot of issues to deal with that would be around whether I was in her life or not and it's sad to deal with.
Thanks for posting Sylla, I'll send some positive energy your way, I know it's hard.