Sorry for trying to scare you straight. You are at the very beginning of a very long process and no one goes through this without making a lot of mistakes so dont sweat it too much. You wont make or break your case with the initial filing. And feelings will get hurt in this process no matter what you do.
However, from this point forward you need to make sure your focus is on demonstration and documentation that you are a great dad and your kids will be best served by stability with you. Put your wife in the position where she has to prove that it is in the best interest of the kids to take them away from you and moved them out of state with her. You are being a good, honorable dad - you dont want to keep the kids away from their mom, but you cannot be forced to give up your kids or follow their mom around from state to state.
You are in a strong position. The status quo is the kids are with you. The burden of proof is on her to convince a judge that he should change this. Most judges dont like to change things that arent broke.
And I dont post much on divorce busting because any advice I have will probably just get you divorced!
I appreciate it fade. That last comment made me laugh. I needed that.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
