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I promise this is the last thing I'll say about the letter unless it can be changed.
I just sent my L an email stating my concerns and asking if the document can be amended.

The EAs are irrelevant in probably every state and in most states, if actual adultery occurred which was not involving the kids, that is irrelevant to custody.
My L’s take is that this is an exhibit of my W’s irrational behavior. I understand it is irrelevant to custody. Just stating what I gather as to the reason it was included.

The comments about the MIL are all irrelevant as to her laziness, and make YOU look bad in several ways, esp when they mention her health problems. As for the abuse, if you feared that MIL was going to hurt your kids, why the hell did you leave her with your kids?
I did not and do not fear that my MIL will hurt my kids. I fear that my W may follow the same pattern that my MIL did under similar circumstances.

Plus she and your w will deny it.

There is virtually NO proof of any of your claims except for her leaving you guys....

and now she'll say you agreed she was to go help her mother and when the mother got better, THEN the kids were to join her
The MIL got sick after they moved to NM.
She had health issues prior to her moving here with us, however she had recovered and was healthy while she lived here. She probably was depressed as you said, but physically healthy.

but you got all vindictive and filed...
I suppose that I could have taken more time and it will be thrown back at me as vindictive. Unfortunately I didn’t take as much time as I should have. I felt that I needed to file quickly to protect myself before she filed. This may come back to bite with the docs in their current context.

That's the revision coming your way, without her adding in some jabs of her own.

Be prepared LB...and just so I know, how'd you choose the L?
I read several reviews on Yelp and consulted with her, along with a different L. After the consultation, I felt that she was the right L for me. I guess we will see one way or the other.

Did you say to her that you felt it was too strongly worded? (And mostly not admissible or provable...)
All I said was that it was a bit much. Nothing else. Her reply was that she felt that it all needed to be said. I took her advice.

If none of it can be changed, and IF your w calls you,

maybe you can blame the L...IDK

it's a hard spot to come back from. I wouldn't blame you if you blamed the L...
It seems to me I'm in a lose/lose sitch here. I can blame the L, but ultimately I am the one airing the dirty laundry. I'll see where I am when the SH!T breaks the fan. I hope not to be near it. I'll probably be right under it.

heck, I'm bummed she sent it b/c unless there's some judge who hates NM,

she should've known better. IT's our job as L's to weed out this type of stuff.

OKAY, enough...no point in crying over spilled milk BUT

find out about any amendments possible asap
I already sent an email asking the question.