[quote=Scylla_Charibdis]Thanks 25 I really, really struggle with all of what you wrote.
SC,
there's the grief first. You have to plod through it b/c you cannot get "around" it. As for the holding on
or the rest of it and what Jack's saying, it's true. There really is choice in this.
That's why usually the LBSer ends up in a better place than a WAS. The WAS has to look over their shoulder the rest of their lives 2nd guessing their choices and wondering "what if?"
What if they had stayed?
What if the LBSer really did change? How good might it have been?
The OW/OM isn't flawless as it turns out...so at times, the WAS misses the LBSer.
Every problem in the WAS's new life that arises, triggers a "what if?" moment in the WAS.
But the healthy LBSer just has to make the best of what got handed to them.
They look inward, do some serious brave looking and they CHANGE
the LBSer becomes a better person and
part of that
is becoming a more contented loving person
who makes their life better than it was
The healthy LBSer makes the best of things and that always means a better life
than what they would have had
with a selfish or deceitful partner
so while the LBSer doesn't have the burden/luxury of 2nd guessing and looking over their shoulder, while the LBSer simply enjoys a better purer life
The WAS always will look over their shoulder wondering...
UNLESS SC, you make a different, sad choice. But know that it IS a choice.
SC, you can be happy again. You can love again. I KNOW THIS. We need you to know it too.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
