Well, maybe I am here today for a 2x4 and not knowing if I need one or not?
My Mother in law called me Wednesday afternoon to talk about the car she is wanting to buy again. I told her I had thought about going out for a drink that night, since w had the kids. She told me that I should ask w to go with me and just go and have a good time. She said w always made comments to her about us not going out every once and a while alone. For whatever reason it has been eating away at me for over a week to ask her out for some alone time. It has been over 40 days since I went dark and DBing and felt from the small signs that w had been showing that I needed to see where she was at.

I know some of you guys told me to wait for her to make that move, and I agreed, but I also knew that going out for a drink was a major issue for us while married. I figured to just go out and have some fun and not talk about R.

I texted w and asked her to call me when she could. She was at work and could only use the phone while on break. She returned my call about 20 minutes later. I told her that I knew it was her night with the kids and I was thinking of going out for a drink and wanted to know if she wanted to go with me. She paused for a moment and asked why? I told her just to get out and relax and hang out for a while. She said what about the kids, what would they think about us going out together. I told her for the benefit of them, they would not need to know. She then asked about her losing time with them and I said it was no big deal and she could be with kids and we could do it another time if she wanted. She said, she didnt know and that I threw her for a loop with the offer. She said she would call me back and let me know. I said fine and left it at that.

About 2 hours later she called me back, she used the excuse about s12 having ball practice and what time and when he will done? I answered her questions, and then she said she was on her way home and was wanting to know if kids were still coming to her apt. I said yes, and that I would drop them off shortly. She then paused and said nothing, I responded throught the silence and told her that the question I had asked her earlier about going out for a drink was not meant to throw her for a loop than chuckled about it. I think she was waiting for me to bring it up again.

She told me that she didnt have an issue with it, but just didnt know what my intentions were. I told her that there were none, just to get away and have a good time. I told her I didnt want to talk about past present or future just wanted to hang out and have fun.

She asked what about kids, and I told her I would drop them off to her around 5 and pick them up at 8 and bring them home. I would let D14 know that I was going out with one of my best friends that had been asking me to and let her babysit. This was important for d14 as I havent always given a lot of responsibilities. I told d14 that I didnt want to go out because I didnt want to leave them alone and then told her it was time for me to show her that she could handle it. D14 smiled and said dad you need to go, and you never get out much and thanked me for letting her babysit.

Told w what the plans was, as w always told me in the past that I could never put a plan for us together to go somewhere and I never wanted to leave kids alone for a couple of hours. So I told w if she wanted to go then we would and I would handle the arrangements with the kids.

She said ok, and that she would go. I said fine and I would drop the kids off at 5 and return at 8 to pick them up.

So, I dropped them off at her apt, did not see her when I got there, did not stay around to do so either.

I went home and showered, dress, and went back to pick them up at 8. For whatever reason I figured w would have called and cancelled after having time to think about it, but she didnt.

I picked up kids and on the way home to drop them off, I text her to ask what time she would be ready. sShe replied in about 30 minutes. I said ok, then asked if she wanted me to pick her up and she replied no, that she would feel more comfy taking her own car.

I said fine and I would meet her there in 30 minutes. She replied ok and that we could meet in the parking lot.

I got there and she was waiting in her car, i got out and so sid she and I walked up and kissed her on the cheek and said hello. She responded back softly hi and smiled.
Part 2 coming!!