[25yearsmlc]

I promise this is the last thing I'll say about the letter unless it can be changed.

The EAs are irrelevant in probably every state and in most states, if actual adultery occurred which was not involving the kids, that is irrelevant to custody.

The comments about the MIL are all irrelevant as to her laziness, and make YOU look bad in several ways, esp when they mention her health problems. As for the abuse, if you feared that MIL was going to hurt your kids, why the hell did you leave her with your kids?

Plus she and your w will deny it.

There is virtually NO proof of any of your claims except for her leaving you guys....

and now she'll say you agreed she was to go help her mother and when the mother got better, THEN the kids were to join her

but you got all vindictive and filed...

That's the revision coming your way, without her adding in some jabs of her own.

Be prepared LB...and just so I know, how'd you choose the L?

Did you say to her that you felt it was too strongly worded? (And mostly not admissible or provable...)

If none of it can be changed, and IF your w calls you,

maybe you can blame the L...IDK

it's a hard spot to come back from. I wouldn't blame you if you blamed the L...

heck, I'm bummed she sent it b/c unless there's some judge who hates NM,

she should've known better. IT's our job as L's to weed out this type of stuff.

OKAY, enough...no point in crying over spilled milk BUT

find out about any amendments possible asap