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I think that letter will backfire on you pretty badly when a judge reads it. I cant believe a lawyer wrote this. Tons of character assasination and no documentation of facts.

So she went on a trip to NV for some unstated duration. So what. What does this have to do with your children. Have you never been out of town? Do you thing the judge has never been out of town?

And your MIL abused your wife? How? When? Where is the evidence. MIL and W will tell the judge you are lying and the judge will believe them, not you. This will make you look terrible.

You allege that your W had EAs. How does this affect your children again? You are in a no fault state, the judge doesnt want to be bothered with this.

You need to state only what you can prove, and it needs to be only about the well-being of your children. Any other allegations you make will come back to bite you. Making this personal and ugly will ultimately only benefit the lawyers and your wife.

Take a look at the dadsdivorce website where there are a lot of guys who know how to go about trying to secure their custody rights and I think you will see what a collosal mistake you are about to make. Focus on your kids. Focus on their stability and well being. Prove that you are the best parent, not the bitter husband.

Damn, this makes my head hurt. I just wanted to keep my family intact. I didn't and don't want to go down this road. I have been the best parent throughout this ordeal and have shielded the kids from the craziness.

I am not bitter, but the letter does paint me as so. I get it.

I gave my L the notes because I thought they might help me with my case. My intent was not to try to blast my W out of the water with it. I didn't know how they would be used and I went with her advice.

I will have to check that website out. I'm curious why you only have 9 post when you can share some valuable insight like you did with that post?