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before I really reply, let me get clear


has your letter with that description included, already been sent or not?
It has been filed with the court, but it has not been sent to my W.


In short, is it too late to change anything now?
I do not know if it can be changed since it has already been filed.

If it's Not too late, let's get cracking at re writing it.

Your L is reviewing it?
My L is the person who drafted the injunctive order with the notes that I provided to her. I read it, however we did not make any changes as she felt that it all needed to be said.

If so, he or she ought to be editing it so the least harm possible is done.[/b]
You know, my intuition told me it was too much, however I decided to go with my L's advice.

I'm not trying to bang you over the head but the letter was unecessarily critical in the characterizations and historic details and It's so inflammatory.
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I hate the letter. I hate everything about it. It will put the final nail in my M.


Get ready LB,

IF I were you, I'd expect an amazingly different version of your marriage to be

hurled back at you in the Legal response. It's tough to see it in writing, as you know.

If you try to take a mother's child from her,

MOST mothers will do what they need to do to get their kids...


they'll waive child support, they'll live in squalor, they'll protect the dirtbag IF it means she gets her kids...

and they'll lie to get their kids too. And she has MIL, her "witness" to back her up.

But then again, w was willing to leave the kids and not tell them what was going on, which was risky. Everyone seems to feel that this is the biggest mistake she made in regards to the kids despite that we had a tentative agreement that I did not sign in place. The agreement was that they were to move to NM on July 16.Will it be enough for me to keep the kids, who knows?

(SIGH)...

When I went to file for div, my L suggested only filing for a sep, b/c she felt there was hope in our sitch (she was a real blessing)

and she also suggested I call h to ask where he preferred being served; work or "home". But I asked her to do that and so she did. He waived service so no one had to present the papers to him; all he did was sign a certified letter that says "I get it. She filed" and that way no one has to embarrass them in their home with the kids around OR at their jobs.
I can at least save her some humiliation by going this route. I have sent my L a couple of emails about getting the W served and that I don’t want to have it done at her work. We haven't worked out those details. I gather that once the decision comes down from the judge on the order, then the W will get served.


I'd be disappointed if your L lets that letter fly as is. But anyhow...
Unfortunately it has already left the flight deck. Hopefully it can return before it lands at its final destination.

let us know if it's a done deal or not.
I will have to ask my L if it can be revised. Since it is filed and we are awaiting the ruling, I don’t know if it can be.

I do expect an amazingly different version of our M. She has already been rewriting the history to the many people she has told, including several of her family members that did not buy it. It was her aunt who told me where she was staying while she was in Vegas. That being said, I am of the mindset that her family will side with her despite what they do not believe to be true.

I wish that I would have been able to post the verbiage before it was filed. I received it Monday night, had some correspondence with my L on Tuesday, signed it Tuesday and then filed it on Wednesday. We may hear an answer back today. Perhaps you know if something that has already been filed be amended after it has been ruled on? I will ask my L.

There is a lot going on with this. I hope for the best, but definitely expect the worst.

NOTE: DbMod, I will start a new thread today. I don't want to start it in the middle of these exchanges. If it has to be closed, I understand. Thank you